Hi Donna,

You wrote,
I find that I am not moving in one direction or another, I feel immobilized. . . . I am usually blessed with good intuition, and am usually inspired about ways to go about a situation, and with a fair idea of the outcome. . . . I basically have two ways to go; do nothing and carry on where I am, or do something and change not only my life, but my family's' also. I admit that I am frightened by the change, but I can do it with joy if I know I am on the right path. I'm just not getting any 'good vibes' one way or another . . .

Yes, as you know, you are always receiving help and guidance. So there's no doubt it's there. You follow your intuition because that's the subtle voice from which the guidance comes. Those on the other side inspire through thought and manipulating the physical environment as much as possible to give us direction.

What interferes with that is what the physical self that we inherited from society and our parents is telling us that we want. That can be so strong it drowns out the inspiration from the Divine and those on the other side. For violent or cruel people, the guidance to be loving and compassionate can't come through at all. Those people will grow spiritually to have more love and compassion sometime in their eternal lifetimes, and in future incarnations may be able to listen more, but during this lifetime, that guidance is lost on them. That's not true for you, of course. People like you who are now loving, compassionate, and confident in the fact that we're receiving guidance from those who love us on the other side, both relatives and guides, are able to hear those intuitions and benefit from them.

It sounds like you're getting the intuitions about what is loving and caring for you and your family. Anything that helps you, your family, and society grow spiritually is good and desirable. Our purpose in life is to grow spiritually, help others to grow spiritually, and help society to advance spiritually. If your intuition is putting alternatives in front of you that will open you and your family up to that growth, and you feel like those are good doors to open, then that's likely the guidance you're receiving. If, instead, you feel a desire for something in the physical realm that might retard or damage the spiritual growth and interfere with the love and compassion, then you may be in turmoil because the physical self wants that, but your intuition lets you know it's damaging. So feeling like there's no clear guidance could mean the guidance just isn't what you want it to be because it doesn't let your physical realm desires play out.

If you aren't feeling any clear guidance and the alternatives are spiritually mature, then you can decide based on what you want. "Follow your bliss," Joseph Campbell said repeatedly. Your happiness and the happiness of those around you are important, and the Divine and those on the other side of life want that happiness for us. Follow your bliss and see where it goes. If you start in a direction and it's not good for you or your family, you'll get guidance after you start on the path, or perhaps the path will change direction at some point but you had to start in one direction now to change direction later. But at the start, if you're not getting clear guidance, then you're open to follow your bliss and go toward whatever makes you and your family happy. You know you'll get the messages if you need to alter that in some way.

Consider whether your family is engaging in this discussion. Are they learning to listen to the guidance from the other side and the Divine? Are they listening and seeing things work out, showing them the power of the spirit that's available? If they're not involved in the decision, they may not grow into learning how to listen to spirit. Perhaps you're not getting guidance because you're to involve them and let all of you hear the messages. I advance that only to help you consider alternatives. As you consider them, some things will feel like they have life in them, like they feel good. A light bulb goes on. It could be that coming to that is the lesson you're learning from this experience. Are there alternatives, such as involving your family, that you're reluctant to consider? If so, it could be that it's in those alternatives that the clear guidance will be found.

Love and peace, Craig