Hi Nathalie,

I’m sorry you’re separated from your ex-boyfriend. We know he’s alive and well, but that won't keep you from feeling the grief from the separation.

You asked,
“Can a loved one be with me in MI and be with his mother in NY and his son in IL and his other son in FL at the same time? Or does he have to choose one of us?”

“At the same time” means I am in the living room saying “How was your day” to my life partner and in the garage saying “Hand me that hammer” to my son at the same moment. No, those in the next plane of life don’t do that. They’re just the same as we are. They don’t change. They’re one individual, and they can be in only one place at a time.

However, it is possible for them to want to be with you right now and a minute later be with his mother. There is no distance or space in the next plane if the person doesn’t want it to be there. In other words, just by thinking about you, he’s with you, and then by thinking about his mother, he’s with her.

You wrote,
“I am still in grief over this loss. It hasn't even been 4 weeks.”

Nathalie, you will always be in grief to some degree and during special times. Don’t feel you shouldn’t be or you should shorten the time or you should feel less grief, ever. However, the more you know he’s alive and well, the more your grief will be reduced.

You wrote,
“I felt his soul slipping peacefully from his body, no pain, no fear - only relief and joy. Could that have been a message from him, or is it just my imagination?”

That was absolutely a message from him. He can’t speak words because that requires that he make the air vibrate, and he is in a body on the next plane of life, so he can’t easily affect matter on this plane. But he can focus his thoughts on you, and since your mind and his are one, as you are one with all other minds, your mind can receive the knowledge. You just know, skipping the words. In this case, you just knew, as he was inspiring you, that he didn’t feel a thing. We know that was him for two reasons: (1) You felt it was him. That’s very important. Communications from our loved ones in the next plane of life are different from imagination. We just know it’s them. That only happens when it really is them. (2) It was positive. All messages from those you love will be positive, although they may warn you about some danger. (3) He told you something you likely don’t know about the afterlife that we who study it know. People in the afterlife all tell us that they did not experience their death. They were transported away before the death occurred. The can’t recall it because they didn’t live it. And that’s what he told you. So you know it was an insight from the afterlife that was absolutely true. He didn’t experience his death.

You wrote,
“I dreamed him one night. . . . Was that him, or just my brain playing tricks on me?”

You have the sense it was him. That’s your proof. What he said was positive and it was an insight for you. That’s proof. Yes, there’s no doubt it was him.

Be confident and happy with all of the communications you get like that. Just accept them. He communicates with you more than you know. It might be that you’re thinking about what to do with your son because of a problem and you suddenly know what to do. You may not realize it at the time, but that certainly was him giving you insight. You’re inspired and given messages more often than you realize. When it does suddenly occur to you, “I wonder if that was him!” then it certainly was. The reason you have that sense is because it was him.

Don’t try to judge which messages you get are really from him. Accept that they’re all from him and enjoy them. You’re constantly in dialogue with him, and he constantly will give you inspiration. He’s enjoying his life there, and he’s busy doing things, so he doesn’t stick around you all the time. But when you need him, he comes to you. When you think of him, he’s there. And at times, just when he wants to visit you, you’ll not be thinking of him at all and suddenly something will come to you about him. That’s him communicating with you through thought. Just accept those wonderful communications and don’t try to figure out if they’re imagination.

You wrote,
“I do not have a healthy relationship with death, and have feared it since I was a child.”

Nathalie, if you knock at the door, it will open for you. If you seek to learn about the afterlife, you’ll find yourself learning more and more, and you’ll learn to have no fear . . . absolutely no fear . . . of death. Your ex-boyfriend is in your future. You’ll be reunited and have wonderful times talking about things that have happened. None of the bad will be there and all of the good. You’ll learn that if you just open yourself to inspiration from him, your other loved ones in the afterlife, your guides, and the Higher Power. They’re all anxious to give you understanding and confidence. They want you to be happy and not fear death. Just open yourself to it.

Love and peace, Craig