I continue to be confused about the after life results of suicide (my aunt committed it years ago).

We're told they will have to endure seeing how badly they hurt their family they left behind. But is suicide so much different than someone who died because they got lazy and didn't put on their seat belt, or refused to stop smoking, or my mother-in-law who was in pain and had gone deaf and finally died from what they called "failure to thrive?"

No matter how one dies, weren't there possible ways it could have been prevented if we'd "just done this instead" or "just done that instead."

Aren't many deaths caused by something the person did, whether they ate too many cheeseburgers or took a chance on driving on the icey road.

And don't most of those deaths cause people left behind to suffer?

We're put here on earth behind a veil we didn't create on our own and are all doing the best we can. My aunt wasn't given any way out that her mind while behind the veil could comprehend. That hardly seems like a "lesson" she could have possible had to learn.

If it is simply about realizing that the suicidal person really was loved on earth after all... that doesn't make sense either.

There are others who die on the streets that no one even knows or mourns, and society is better off without them if they were thieves or drug dealers. So how do they learn the supposed "lesson?"