Hi Brenda,

I’m sorry about your aunt’s passing. I can tell that you love her and are very concerned about what she’s doing now and why this happened. I do want to answer your questions.

You wrote, “We're told they will have to endure seeing how badly they hurt their family they left behind.”

Yes, but it isn’t a punishment. They aren’t required to watch their grieving loved ones. When we’re on the Earth plane, the body imposes a separation between our minds. The mind is all we all we really are. The body is just a vehicle we get into, like a car. When we stop using the body on the Earth plane, the artificial separation is reduced. Then we understand the thoughts of others in the same way we hear words from others now. We are one with each other, but on the Earth plane, the body’s senses drown out the thoughts.

So when a loved one still on the Earth plane grieves and calls the name of the person who has committed suicide, that person gets the thoughts and feels the feelings of the person on the Earth plane. It just happens. No one is forcing them to feel the grief of the person left on the Earth plane. They just know it. It’s much like being in a room and someone calls to you. You are going to hear them call, whether you want to or not.

You wrote, “My aunt wasn't given any way out that her mind while behind the veil could comprehend. That hardly seems like a "lesson" she could have possible had to learn.”

We chose to incarnate onto the Earth plane at this point in time to learn lessons. However, we don’t know what the lessons are. We do know more when we look back over our lives. We get a sense of the lessons we learned, and at times we understand why things happened as they did. But we can’t pinpoint the lessons when something happens. When a loved one dies, we can’t suggest, “There was a lesson to be learned and that death was planned.” We really don’t know why things happen as they do. When we’re in the Earth plane mentality, with our thoughts and attitudes as they are on the Earth plane, we can’t understand all the things that happen to us. Our understanding is clouded, and it’s focused on living on Earth, as it must be.

So we can’t say your aunt was to learn a lesson that would have avoided her suicide, or that her suicide was to teach a lesson to her, to you, or to anyone else. We don’t know the lessons people are learning, or why things happen as they do. They just happen.

What we can know is that your aunt learned while on the Earth plane, and she is happy and comfortable now, able to look back over her life, and aware of your love for her and your wish to be assured she’s OK. Beyond that, we really can’t try to understand what, in eternity, she was learning while on the Earth plane.

You wrote, “If it is simply about realizing that the suicidal person really was loved on earth after all... that doesn't make sense either.”

No, you can’t “make sense” of everything that goes on while we’re on the Earth plane. It’s too intricate and involved. Many things come together, in ways we don’t understand, to provide experiences we don’t anticipate, to learn lessons that are important for us, but that we won’t fully appreciate until the Earth experience is over. You won’t be able to understand why your aunt committed suicide while you’re here. Trying to understand it will tie you in knots, and you’ll never find the answer.

I know you are trying to understand why someone you love chose to leave the Earth plane. You won’t be able to. Instead, you have a new relationship with her now. You can be in contact with her, and you can let her know how much you love and miss her. Quiet yourself and feel her presence and response. Focus on the present and the future, not the past.

Love and peace, Craig