Hello, I lost my beloved soulmate husband to pancreatic cancer a month ago.

I've been an occasional medium for others whose loved ones have passed over, noticing I pick things up when I do Reiki on them, and I've already heard my husband's voice very briefly call me by our pet name, and he came to me last night and laid with me.

But I really, really want to experience EMDR, IADC (induced after-death communications) in person with a trained therapist, and an especially good trained therapist, the only one who lives close enough to me, says I have to wait a year after his death.

I have no doubt I can get more and more communication with him on my own, but I'm almost overwhelmingly drawn to go to an IACD therapist for some reason. Is it normal for them to tell you to wait? Even if not, any guesses as to why they would want to you? Is it because the passed loved one has "work" to do over there and in a year the communication would be better? Or maybe because some of our own turmoil should be worked through first?

There I go again trying to make sense of things I know nothing about... but an IACD is just somthing I really need and want right now.