:Craig,

Thankyou. This has helped!

Hello Christina,

: I’m so sorry to hear about your loved one. There is no acceptable reason to put people through that awful experience if it can be avoided.

: I do want you to know that people who commit suicide are met on the other side with great understanding, compassion, and love. There is no judgment or condemnation.

: You wrote, “I have seen him plain as day standing at the foot of my bed looking at me. He looked sad. Not sad for himself but sad for me that i am in so much pain.”

: Yes, that’s what we hear often from suicides when they reach the next plane of life. They then realize how much pain their loved ones are feeling. I’m sure that’s the message he’s giving to you. He’s sad because of what he has put you through.

: You wrote, “I've had about a half dozen or so "signs" from him and two more visits although I could not see him. I felt him plop onto my bed playfully and almost "knead" the blankets next to me.”

: Wonderful. Don’t doubt them. Enjoy them. Keep talking with him and be open to his responses. It’s difficult for him to communicate, so he’ll use whatever means he can. Expect his contact in unusual ways. Accept them. Thank him and respond.

: You wrote, “These visits come when I am in a very relaxed state and am almost "spaced out.”

: That is the state you must be in. You can cultivate it. Take time to go into that relaxed state; space out. Then be open to anything that comes. Don’t make it come, and don’t try to make it clearer or deeper. Just relax and let whatever comes come. Enjoy it.

: You asked, “Does my love feel my feelings and hear my thoughts on the other side?”

: Yes. He is able to get your thoughts and feel your feelings. You always were one at that level. It’s just that when we’re on the Earth plane, life is so noisy and engaging that we don’t notice the subtle communication going on between us. We are one mind, so it is much like bringing up a memory when we “know” what someone else is thinking and feeling. Their memories are our memories; their thoughts are our thoughts. And when they’re not using a body anymore, they have that method of communication primarily. We have to adjust to that by withdrawing from the noise of the physical realm and paying attention to those thoughts and feelings. You can become better and better at doing that. Doubt, straining to make it happen, desperate grief, expectations for what will happen, and unwillingness to slow down and relax all will keep you from receiving those thoughts. Go into that spaced out state and just relax. Let whatever comes come.

: You asked, “Are the memories and love we held for each other still important to him?
: I guess, I want to know if he feels how much I love him even still.”

: Oh yes. Nothing has changed, except he’s not using a body. He’s still the same person. His love is still the same and will remain so.

: You asked, “and is there anything I can do other than prayer (i pray frequently) to encourage more signs and visits from him?”

: He’s always available, and always communicates when you communicate with him. Trust that. It’s absolutely true. It isn’t that he’s not around and you have to “summon” him. He’s there when you think of him, and he’ll also come when he wants to be around you, so when you’re not thinking of him and something pops into your mind or you feel a sudden rush of feeling, that’s him. Keep the dialogue going. Keep talking. Take time to relax and listen. He is communicating with you; I can guarantee that. You just have to get into a state where you can receive it. Take some time every day. Go to a quiet place. Relax. Talk to him, in your mind or aloud. Then pause and relax. Let whatever comes through come.

: Love and peace, Craig